
fris‧son / Pronunciation [free-sohn; Fr. free-sawn]
a sudden, passing sensation of excitement; a shudder of emotion; thrill.
(Random House Unabridged Dictionary)
My favorite day of the year is Thanksgiving.
I like all holidays. Any day off from work, or during which
people come together to celebrate, or when you get (or give) gifts, is a good day. Some days, however, are more special than others.
Christmas used to be my favorite. When I was a kid, I went straight from one
frisson to another during the week leading up to Christmas. The celebration of
Christ’s birth was magical and there was no end to the ways that the world
delighted me. As I’ve grown older, that magic has ebbed. I haven’t changed,
though; it’s the world that has.
When I was a child, nearly every house in the neighborhood sported pastel
lights of red, yellow, green, blue and orange, either as decoration outside or
via a candle or two in the windows. The streets were bathed in an embracing
warmth, a welcoming glow. Nowadays, the lights of choice are mostly cold;
icicles and clear starbursts. I guess a lot of folks like them – otherwise, why
would they have them? - but all they do for me is make the night streets too
much like daytime. Those bright white lights don’t do anything but remind me of
how cold it is in winter. The colorful lights of my childhood made me feel
warm inside, even during the meanest of snowstorms outside.

I love Christmas music. I always have. Every year of my youth, I looked forward to it beginning,
sporadically, after Thanksgiving, then building bit by bit until there was
an entire glorious day and night of it from Christmas Eve through to Christmas
Night. It then played on the radio all day, but only all day on Christmas and
most of the day before. In the morning, while opening presents with my Mom and
Dad, we played the two or three vinyl Christmas records we had at home. It was rare and therefore
special.
Now the trouble is in trying to avoid it. Some radio stations start playing it 24 hours a day in October. Walk into any store and it's possible you'll be assaulted with it before Veterans Day. Seriously - and I mean this - if you like that sort of
thing, God bless you. To me, though, Christmas music is like chocolate. A few
pieces, rich and creamy, are delightful. Feed it to me non-stop for sixty days?
All that is, is a sick stomach.

The final nail in my Christmas coffin is driven in by the greedy merchants who don't wait for Thanksgiving to be over
before they start spewing forth their hideous advertisements.
I rail against it every year on my Facebook page, Thanksgiving Comes First. MY WIFE tells me
to relax, that I can’t change it, that there really isn’t anything all that bad
about it. I love MY WIFE dearly, but on that score she’s dead wrong. I’ll go to my
grave cursing the theft of innocent joy from a lovely day.
I try to ignore it, and I try to keep the spirit I believe in, but they keep
throwing haymakers at me and a few do connect. I keep getting up off the
canvas, but it isn't easy. Some reprehensible stores have taken to opening on Thanksgiving Day itself rather than
having the decency to wait until so-called Black Friday, denying their employees a well-deserved holiday. The people running these companies have no soul.
Christmas still has charm. The real importance of it, for someone like me, is
spiritual, and nobody can rip that out of me unless I let them.
The people I share the day with, and with whom I eat good food and exchange
lovely and loving gifts, are dear to me. They still make it a wonderful day,
but that frisson I spoke of earlier, that I used to have in multiples during
the season, hasn’t been felt in quite a while.
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The only holiday I can count upon to deliver a frisson is Thanksgiving.
(I’m trying to set the world record for frisson mentions. Am I there yet?)
I've never had a bad Thanksgiving. As a matter of fact, I’ve had nothing but good ones.
For every other holiday, I can recall a bummer. There have been
New Years Eves with toothaches and New Years Days with hangovers; Washington’s
Birthdays with flu; Memorial Days with sunburns; July Fourths with car
accidents; Labor Days with the dread of returning to school; Halloweens with
stolen candy; and even Christmases with “Dear John” letters thrown into the
mix; but never a bad Thanksgiving.
(I hope I’m not a victim of selective memory. Somewhere in the past there
may have been one horrible incident I’ve tucked into a corner of my mind under
lock and key. If so, and you know about it, don’t tell me. I’d rather be
ignorant and happy.)
One of the reasons it’s so easy to have a good Thanksgiving is that nobody’s trying to sell you anything. It’s just good company, some football,
great food, and maybe a nap with your belt loosened. The biggest thing anyone
can put up for sale is a bird. There are no bogus guilt trips laid on you by
manufacturers trying to make you feel as though you haven’t done right by your
loved ones. All you have to do, to do right by your loved ones on Thanksgiving,
is show up.


Oh, the smells of Thanksgiving dinner cooking! There is no perfume in existence
that matches the fragrance of turkey, stuffing, gravy, squash, turnip, sweet
potatoes, hot rolls, pumpkin pie, and all of the other mouth-watering aromas
that emanate from the kitchen on that day. It is the smell of pure love. The
one doing the cooking isn’t doing it because he or she is guilt-ridden. It’s
being done because the people who will eat the feast are near and dear; as
simple and lovely as that.
MY WIFE and I have hosted Thanksgiving at our place for the past 20+
years. It is the most sublime pleasure of my year to plan that meal and then
prepare it. I’m the luckiest man in my family. I get to enjoy those smells
longer than anyone else. And I get the lion’s share of the leftovers, too.

I remember lovely huge tables full of food at my paternal grandparent’s apartment in
Roslindale, the vegetables served in great green ceramic bowls and topped with
big pats of yummy sweet butter. I remember other times of waking in my upstairs
bedroom to the smell of a turkey roasting in my childhood home in Dorchester.
Later, after my parent’s divorce, I ate TWO huge dinners every Thanksgiving –
the first cooked by My Father and the second served at My Grandma’s in
Weymouth, where I would eat with My Mother. It wasn’t easy but, since I loved both of
them too much to disappoint either of them, I did my duty. I even ate a
couple of pieces of pie at both places so they’d have no doubt about how
much I loved them.

I try to remember what the name of the holiday calls for – the giving of
thanks. I look upon my preparation and sharing of food as a sacred rite. There’s no skimping on this meal. If money’s tight, it’s a way of
showing my faith in the idea that God will bring better times. Always, it’s a
time to be thankful for the good people who are sharing the table with me, and also for remembering those dear souls who shared the table in past times but, for whatever reason, are no longer gathered here.
There are lovely constants at Thanksgiving. For instance, every year the
Detroit Lions play football. Well, at least they try and they ought to get
credit for that.
The same stories sometimes get told at the table. There's one that
never fails to get mentioned, concerning turnip and a Danish friend of the
family.
Seems that one year, when this Dane was a holiday guest, my grandmother was
preparing the food and one of the vegetables was turnip. The fellow laughed and
said, in his Danish accent, “Turnip! Ha-ha! Very funny!” and when he was asked
why he was laughing, he said, “Ho-ho! Yes, the joke’s on me! That’s a very
funny joke. OK, you can take it away now.” Apparently, they only served turnip
to pigs in his region of Denmark. He thought it was a joke for his benefit.
When he found out it was something we actually ate and enjoyed, he became
somewhat indignant (if not sick to his stomach.) Every year, when I bring out
the turnip, that story returns for it’s annual telling. And I love it.
When the meal is over – well, at least that part of the meal which doesn’t
involve pie – I turn my attention to the end of the Lion’s
game. Meanwhile, the other folks have good conversation, coffee, tea and, yes,
pie. I'm a New England Patriots fan, but I root for the Lions on Thanksgiving (unless they're playing the Patriots, of course.) If the Lions win, I have a piece of pie to celebrate their good
fortune. Since this rarely happens, I console myself with a piece of pie when
they lose. It’s all good.

The playing of some sort of board game is generally part of the after-dinner fun. Conversation is friendly and relaxed. Football is in the background on the TV. The desserts remain on the table for anyone who wants a bite more of anything.
Soon, it gets to be late afternoon and folks start leaving. We pack up some yummy leftovers for each person to take home and then finally it’s just me and MY WIFE, all alone in the house. At that point, I do
what any manly red-blooded American male would do. I take a couple of the leftover
rolls, slice ‘em open, stuff them with turkey and dressing and gravy, and eat
them while I watch the end of the Dallas game (and if they'd lose as often as
the Lions, I'd be a happier man, but, once again, Pie!)
The evening is usually spent cleaning up at a very leisurely pace, interrupted every so often with another snack (generally rotating between a small turkey sandwich with gravy and stuffing, then another slice of pie, then some more turkey, then pie, then... you get the idea...) although we have been known, on occasion, to bring a nice meal of leftovers to some friend or another who has to work. If I'm just home and doing dishes and such, whatever football game is on TV that night accompanies the clean-up (and if I feel more like watching the game, and snacking, than I do cleaning up, the clean-up can wait until morning. This is not a day for rushing through anything.)

I wish you a Tremendously Happy Thanksgiving. Say your prayers, eat much, show
love, enjoy the friends and relatives, and do yourself a favor by remembering that the stores will be open for another 32 days this year, after Thanksgiving and before Christmas, so no need to hurry.
Amen.